1 100% agree with Kil in terms of how important communication is for a marriage! I firmly believe that a relationship or marriage will not survive if the two involved are unable to communicate with each other! Communicating is not just talking, but it’s listening to your partner’s concerns and empathizing with their concerns. So often we are preparing our rebuttal in a heated argument that we miss key pieces of what our spouse is trying to express to us!
Effective communication is often hindered by masking our true feelings, avoiding what we trully want to talk about and starting an argument over something totally unrelated, trying to control the conversation by cutting each other, or name calling. If this sounds like you, then chances are you are not communicating properly in your relationship! As a result, you are not giving your relationship a chance to grow, nor are you attending to your spouse’s needs, thus leading to conflict!
I encourage you all to try to be open and honest about your feelings, but to also put yourself in your spouse’s shoes to understand their concerns. A relationship simply can not survive without being able to communicate and to communicate effectively! I’d like to challenge you all to assess how well you communicate your needs and if you are attentive to your spouse’s needs.